virgin is someone who’s never had sex — but it’s not quite as simple as it seems. … Some people haven’t had penis-in-vagina sex, but they’ve had other kinds of sex (like oral sex or anal sex) — and they may or may not see themselves as virgins.

  • Don’t rush it: Go slow about talking about sex, especially if you suspect it is a girl’s first time. This is not a time to rush into sex. Be patient and make sure you are totally comfortable and ready.
  • Use lubrication: If you suspect a girl is a virgin, using a personal lubricant can also help make sex more pleasant.
  • Wear a condom: Using a condom is not only a way to prevent pregnancy, but it’s also important for protection from STDs. If you are going to be sexually active, make sure you have condoms or another form of birth control ready. Also, be ready to put on a condom early. Don’t wait until after penetration; it’s not worth the risk.
  • Take it slow: If you’re concerned about painful sex or blood, take it slowly the first time and consider putting a towel under you. Sex can be messy, but you will enjoy it more if you are prepared.